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Self Love Isn’t Selfish!

This topic has been something that i’ve been meaning to write about for a while but couldn’t find the right words. Aka I needed to take some time to cool off a bit and think on it before I wrote a crazy rant that had people emailing saying “LAUREN ARE YOU OK?” 🙊


Blissfully Lively x lululemon Night of Bliss Event Recap

✨Welcome to the first Blissfully Lively event, A Night of Bliss!✨

Night of Bliss

Woah, I am seriously still in good vibes land after this event and am just starting to process all the goodness that happened last Friday night. Let me set the mood for you…

Soft dim lighting with christmas tree lights covered by whimsical drapery on the ceiling casting a warm glow at Rootdown yoga. 30 women of incredibly different styles, backgrounds, etc. coming together to find their bliss seated on the floor comfortably next to one another. 3 phenomenal women pouring their heart and soul out into the room, sharing their stories of suffering that lead them to finding their bliss. Being vulnerable with the crowd on their ups and downs in life and how they overcame hardship in order to find their happiness.

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It was a night I will never forget all because I took a chance on myself, stepped out of my comfort zone and said screw it, i’m going to host an event! I wanted to touch womens lives closer to home, help them become their best selves and find their purpose and passion and not just online. Being in a space with that many positive, women that wanted to hear my {and the other ladies opinions} and open themselves up to one another was so incredibly inspiring and surreal.

The night started with a meditation by yoga instructor and owner of Root Down Yoga, Ericka. Her vibes were incredibly empowering by reminding us all that we need to check in with ourselves, and nourish our bodies daily. Allow ourselves time to drink water, eat whole foods and breath deep, breathing in the positives and letting go of the negatives. Her yoga studio is stunning, so inviting and homey and I am so grateful that she donated her space for the event. Thank you!

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3 speakers were set to speak all about finding their bliss. The empowering women we chose were Raya Al-Hashmi of Raya on Assignment, Annie Wagoner of Core Nourishment & Amber Lilyestrom of Soul Fueled CEO. They all spoke beautifully about being vulnerable, allowing yourself to change and evolve, and how to design the life you want to live through small changes and proactive thinking.

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 Each womens story was incredibly and it reminded me of how often we look at someone and think they have their shit together, their life is on track and they must have it all under control when in reality we all have a story, we all have a past full of hardships that have shaped and molded us. Each one of these women had a story that I would never think happened to them by looking at them, judging their life from the outside. I applaud and thank them so deeply for sharing it with us all to help us to finding our bliss!

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Our night concluded with my most favorite part, the vision board party! Nick from UROCK Marketing donated the vision board supplies and his time to this event and I could not thank him enough for providing such a phenomenal experience for all these ladies. The women flipped through magazines, tore out pictures, quotes, anything that positively resonated with them or that they wanted for their futures and glued them on to a board. This board is supposed to be hung in a space where you will see it everyday and if you look at it daily you are 33% more likely to accomplish your goals. CRAZY! Thank you Nick for your generosity!

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Bliss Foodscape

You guys know how much of a foodie I am and having Laney & Lu there to provide 2 delicious foodscapes for all the ladies, made the whole night! These platters were so stunning I almost didn’t want to eat them, almost. Thank you to the L&L crew that donated their time & delicious eats to this event. Whole real foods fueling these positive and empowering ladies was the icing on the cake!

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From the bottom of my heart thank you to all of the people that donated their time & energy to this event. I want to send out a huge thank you to lululemon Portsmouth for their support as well. I adored cohosting this event with them and am so thankful for their support! Thank you to all the BL readers old & new that came out to support and are now following along, without your help we would not have donated over $400 to 2 local charities, so thank you.

I can’t wait for more BL events in the future!

P.S. Loved the music at the Night of Bliss? Peep my playlist below 🙂

xo,

Lauren


The Inspiring Interview That Women Need to Read

This interview is one that truthfully I questioned doing all together. Not because of the interviewee in anyway but more so the people I thought I would offend.

This worry right here is the problem. It is the whole reason why I needed to affirm that this space I have created is for motivating and inspiring no matter what anyone thinks and to prove to myself that others negative opinions don’t matter.

So, let me take you back to the beginning. I was reading an article about a month ago online about the Women’s March and when I got to the end their was a suggested article section. This section like every other suggested article section listed a title, little blurb and photo of other articles within this same genre. The picture alone made my mouth drop.

I immediately clicked not even skimming the article title, but knowing I had to read. I scrolled down to find the images because I couldn’t believe someone was really brave enough to plaster this message through art. I scrolled to the first image and sat staring at it for quite some time.

 

Blissfully Lively Trump InterviewThen, I kid you not I began to cry. Like a blubbering little baby sitting at my desk, alone at home feeling helpless. Upset at the world and confused as to how someone could say such cruel things.

The images sickened me. Those images were of now president Donald Trumps words plastered over naked women’s bodies. These words were direct quotes degrading and speaking down towards women. Truthfully they made me so upset, some quotes so graphic & degrading I didn’t want to share those here in direct quotes, but to give you all a little context they were quotes speaking to putting a value on a women based on her chest size, degrading speak about a women performing oral sex, etc! THE LIST GOES ON.

This being said this interview isn’t to dwell on the past or harp on what we can’t change but to rise up, come together and support each other. Stand up for what we believe in and demand the respect that we all deserve!

Without further Ado I give you Aria Watson, artist, photographer and college student who brought the “Signed by Trump” collection to life.

BLHi Aria! Please Introduce yourself to Blissfully Lively Readers.

AW: Hi! My name is Aria Watson and I am an eighteen year old college student from the not so sunny Seaside, Oregon.

BLI saw your Signed by Trump artwork and was so moved! What triggered you to create this?

AWI’m so glad my photo series touched you! I started creating #SignedByTrump a few weeks before the election. However, once the election happened and I saw that Donald Trump had won, I knew I had to work harder on this project and spread my message. I was actually 2 weeks too young to vote this year, so making the series was kind of a way for me to do something about the election. As a proud feminist, hearing Trump say “grab them by the p***y” and talk about how he could do anything he wanted made me sick.

Women are not objects. The fact that he has said this, and other things like this, but still won scares me. I’m afraid that words, and even actions, like this will become a social norm now that he is our president. Another reason I created #SignedByTrump was because I noticed that making Facebook posts was not doing anyone any good. I used to make statuses to voice my opinion, but words on a screen weren’t going to change anyones thoughts. Using visuals can really grab someone’s attention, so I decided to mix my political opinion with my love for photography.

BLI know some of us can feel insecure, or worried to voice our opinions especially during the pivotal college years, but you seem to deal with this so gracefully. Did you ever feel nervous about releasing this work? And if so how did you overcome this?

AWI can totally relate to anyone who feels scared to speak up and loudly about their opinion. As soon as I started posting my opinions on social media, people were quick to judge me and even send me rude comments. However, I learned really fast not to care about what others have to say when they are behind a computer screen. Thankfully I’ve yet to discover what it’s like for someone to get so upset about my opinion to my face, but online is a different story. I just think that if someone is too afraid to call me up or say it in real life, that their opinion really isn’t worth it. Besides, I’d much rather get my opinion out there and meet others who agree with me, than sit here wishing I had the courage to speak up. For anyone who is nervous to talk about their opinions, I think they should just think of the quote “Do one thing everyday that scares you” – Eleanor Roosevelt

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{Aria displaying one of her photographs at the Womens March}

BLI think this work you have done is so powerful {I even bought a sweatshirt from your collab with The Outrage} do you have any plans to expand your line?

AWThank you so much! I actually got myself a sweatshirt too! I am not planning on expanding the line at all. I wasn’t even planning on having a line, but the opportunity arose.

BLNo matter who someone voted for, or party affiliation what is one tip you can give to people going into this new year and new presidency?

AWI think the only thing I can say to anyone going into this new year is that we are stronger together. Find people who believe in the same things as you, and stick together. We are always stronger together.

BLWho is one women in any field that you look up to the most, and why?

AWIf I’m being honest, I started reading Fight Like a Girl by Megan Seely and instantly looked up to this woman. I highly recommend reading that book and learning more about feminism. Megan Seely is an incredible woman and I definitely look up to her.

BLAny last thoughts or tips to woman working to make their opinions heard in 2017?  

AW I think women just need to come together and not be afraid to speak up and take action. I don’t think any action is too small.

This interview blew my mind that someone in such a difficult stage of life {the college years can be a hard time of finding yourself etc.} can be so open and honest about her views. It’s hard voicing our opinions at any time, but to feel confident and brave enough to do so as a 17 or 18 year old women is inspiring!

I shared this interview today to give ladies some motivation to stand up for what they believe in {if Aria can do it, we all can} and remind them that {words from Meryl Streep will do this more justice than anything I could come up with} “disrespect invites disrespect, violence incites violence. When the powerful use their position to bully others, we all lose”.

xo,

Lauren


Blissfully Lively Self Love Movement

As I have always told you guys I am here to inspire, motivate and help you along your wellness journey, and that doesn’t just mean in the gym.

I felt like given the time of year {post holiday, new years resolutions, etc.} and the Women’s March being this weekend it was time to remind all of you beautiful, talented, strong ladies just how important you are!

I know life can get in the way, work piles up & we begin to move ourselves farther and farther down the priorities list never stopping to remind ourselves of how much we matter!

It is such a hard skill to learn and I am slowly {like turtle slow} beginning to realize that without my own sanity and personal well being I can’t begin to care for anyone else. That without loving who I am deep down and putting that time and energy into making me the strongest, healthiest, happiest version of myself I won’t be anything for anyone else.

This movement is to help remind every women reading this {or the flyers} that you are capable. Capable of pulling it together, capable of toughing it out, capable of getting through the hard times, capable of loving yourself! AND that no matter what is happening in life you aren’t alone, someone else is going through the same thing and might need some help lifting themselves up like you did!

This movement is me extending kind words out to anyone struggling in hopes that those kind words will be passed through a space {social media} that gets flooded with negativity on the daily. My hopes are that this kindness will be the light that some need in their day, will be the imperfectly curated square that makes them think instead of just double tap.

The flyers will be hung around the Portsmouth, NH area in local coffee shops, but with the power of social media I hope their message spreads far and wide.

#BLSelflove

#liveblissfully

xo,

Lauren


How to Bounce Back From an “Opinion Attack”

We all know them, the conversations that leave us feeling deflated, confused, gross, maybe even downright pissed. The ones where people impart their opinions without even being asked and {sometimes} don’t even know they’re doing it. I call these an “opinion attack”, where we may feel like we’re helping or inquiring but in all reality we’re just spewing our opinion without stopping to think how it might make the other person feel.

As we are now into the new year and the goals/ intentions have been set I wanted to help people bounce back from any negative opinions that get thrown their way. We know the month of February {or the month of quitting those new years resolutions} is fast approaching and I want to make sure you all are armed with the knowledge to fight back when confronted with any opinions that could potentially derail you from your healthy lifestyle journey!

I’m here to tell you we all have these opinion encounters, and the feelings are 100% normal but how we move forward is the most important part.

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Whether you have been the opinion attacker, or are the one being attacked {we’ve all been one at one point, and might not even have noticed it until now} these type of conversations can be super hard to overcome. The attacker might after the fact realize what they have done and feel terrible, not knowing where to go from there and the attacked could allow these words to truly affect their progress, goals, lifestyle choices, whatever it might be.

I’m going to be 100% honest with you guys, I have most definitely been both of these and a good majority of the time not even on purpose. Say something super exciting happens to one of your friends, lets take a new job for example you’re so thrilled for them and start chatting about all the possibilities of who they will work with, when they start, their commute, etc. and you land on the topic of their commute, your friend begins chatting about how her/his commute is going to be 2 hours both way, you jump in saying “oh my gosh, that’s a super long commute, how are you going to make dinner, relax after work, etc.?” “are you sure you want to take this job?”.

So you have gone from being completely excited to kind of bashing this persons new life choice without even realizing, because you probably were just concerned but it came off a bit opinionated and rude and now your friend is feeling down about her choice in taking the job and might be second guessing.

Do we see how this naturally happens and we might not even realize?

Ok, so now what?

How to Bounce Back From an “Opinion Attack”

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Lets start with the attacker, in the event that you realize what you said may have hurt this friend the best thing I think is to be honest. Honesty is so hard to come to terms with and admit to the other person but I have realized is the most effective. I think immediately {or once you realize you might have hurt them} addressing the issue is the best way to go about it. It refrains from having the friend stew on those words and become more upset, and allows you to get your guilt off your chest.

If you are the one that has been victim to an “opinion attack” after having this conversation it can feel a bit daunting! Now you may begin to question yourself or your goals etc. My best advice {that I try to listen to as often as possible, it’s always so hard to listen to your own advice} is to remind yourself of your why. Why you started, took the job, started a relationship with so and so, whatever you have been attacked about. Remind yourself of all the reasons why you did what you did, basically this allows you to take a step back and remind yourself of the positives in this situation.

The next step I think works best is to think about the situation as if it were happening to someone else {this can be the hardest of all these tips}. Does this friend have any validity in what they are saying? Are you feeling upset because you’re defensive and what they’re saying has some stock, or are they jumping to conclusions and leaving you with their unwanted opinion?

The last step I find to be the most difficult is to come to terms with the fact that that might be their opinion, but it doesn’t have to be yours. If this friend doesn’t realize they hurt you, or even worse genuinely believes what they said to be true, you have to be strong enough in your decision that no matter their opinion you are happy with yourself. Happy with the choice you made, the life you live, the weight you’ve lost/ gained whatever it may be. You have to remember that no matter what anyone else things you are the only person who fully understands your wants and desires and the happiness that sticking with them will bring you!

Dealing with confrontation is no ones favorite but I hope these few tips helped you handle any situation thrown at you a little better and allow you to be a bit more mindful before speaking.

Lets start a convo below! Let me in on any times you have felt “opinion attacked” and how you overcame it!

#liveblissfully.

xo,

Lauren

Feeling like you need a little mindfulness in your life? Check out the Wellness Spotlight post on ways to be more mindful in 2017.

 


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